eh, well, i would say that as for thinking they might think u were the one that called, it could have been any1, even someone passing by. u could lie, as another poster mentioned, or u could also project yourself as not necessarily caring too much about the domestic violence (u can still express disapproval 2 him in a way that doesn't condemn), but rather the noise disturbance, if the conversation came down 2 it. (was the guy saying he knew he thought his partner wouldn't call the police?)
but to answer ur sanity check, no, domestic violence is not normal. some states have strict laws and procedures for how such cases move forward after the victim calls once for being hit or grabbed in a violent way (even if it only happened once and with no history of abuse - zero tolerance policy), including mandatory separating of the two for a period of time (months, i think), immediate jail for the accused, and a mandatory anger management course. there is also emergency housing available for victims of domestic violence - they r top housing priority.
it is also likely a violation of their lease agreement, as they were preventing u from peaceful enjoyment of your home, and so you could theoretically talk to him about that or call your landlord, if u were so inclined.
most religions, including conservative Christian, r against domestic violence, as well, so not normal at all.
i think it was good that the police showed up to their unit, at least, since it is now on record that domestic violence may have occurred there, and it may also have served 2 reign in the abuser a bit. (as for those saying u shouldnt have called, at least in this instance, i think u have a strong argument against them - there is, perhaps, a certain humor there in him saying that he knows his partner won't call and then the police mysteriously showing up at his door.)
but yeah, if the abuser thinks u were the one who called, depending on ur social skills, i imagine someone with maxxed-out stats would maybe lie and even feign sympathy, if needed, but also mention that they don't appreciate all the loud noises coming from his apartment on a Sunday morning (b sure 2 emphasize the word, "Sunday"). If pressed, this hypothetical elite social engineer might then go on to convey they don't care wat he does in his apartment as long as it's quiet - but it would b tricky 2 not imply tacit approval, so words would need 2 b used wisely.
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